Indecisiveness and Caila from BIP

Yes, It’s back!! Another Thankful Thursday post…and today I am thankful for indecisiveness!

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THANKFUL FOR INDECISIVENESS?!? Yes, that problem with making decisions…I find when my calendar is full, and I can’t decide what my  planner should look like- it’s a good thing-not bad.  It just means that I need to actually learn to make an EXECUTIVE DECISION and decide what is more important to me as a woman, as myself I guess.  Tonight I have the option of canceling my plans and going to a girls youth small group at my church  (which I already switched days of the week for my ladies coffee night to accommodate girls group) or keeping with my plans to meet girls my same age for coffee (and to crochet to relax)

Just like Caila kept changing her mind in Bachelor In Paradise…

One one hand, I would really like to be a good example for the younger girls who are struggling through teenager-dom, but I  (like Caila) need to look towards what I really want.  I can’t make up my mind about anything- but I am fortunate enough to have a very patient husband, who calls me back to see that I’m ok after seeing all of my missed phone calls.

He talks me through the situation. Breaks it down, “Which do you want to go to?” , “Do you really need to be there?”; “Which one seems  like it would be the most relaxing?”

 

https://www.yahoo.com/tv/bachelor-paradise-preview-caila-brett-000000990.html

 

on the flip side…you can be THANKFUL to actually have so many options!

Just like Caila went back and forth and couldn’t decide between Brett or Jared, when Jared is OBVIOUSLY the one she likes more… CAILA IS A PEOPLE PLEASER!

 

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A people pleaser who constantly changes her mind…just wants to keep everyone happy. The people pleaser is one of the nicest people you know a type of friend that you can rely on for everything; they try to be the mosst helpful, they cannot say ‘no.’  According to Psychology Today website.  The good psychologists say that people pleasers get all of their work done, try to help everyone else do their work, and then try to plan everything.  This is a unhealthy habit that can get a person very stressed out, and then burnt out.  This is how I feel from time to time, so then I quit at the nursing home, and now in life, I take it all in stride.  I try to do what I can do, observe from the sidelines, while being a cheerleader!

cheerleader with yellow pom pom

cheerleader with yellow pom pom clipart

 

 

 

 

 

 

With me, a traumatic brain injury survivor, I already have the problem of making up my mind, and then I want to make things easier for everyone I care about.  I don’t want to inconvenience anyone, so I would just say ‘I don’t know,’ and go with whatever someone else wishes.  Some problems with cognition that survivors experience have to do with planning I must have a million day-planners-problems with memory– remembering to write the dates in each individual one-organization– My workplace is full of sticky  notes with to do lists everywhere-attention, it is very hard to keep me on task; I need lists to concentrate and go back to and figure out what I am currently doing

How does TBI affect cognition and what can be done about it?

After a TBI it is common for people to have problems with attention, concentration, speech and language, learning and memory, reasoning, planning and problem-solving.

[The above information was taken from a website trying to educate on traumatic brain injury]

 

but sometimes its good to have too many options of what social excursion to go on the evening, and at least it’s an easy, non life threatening decision. Should I really go out on this date or not….

desk calendar september 2016

desk calendar september 2016 clipart

 

About Danielle!

A young professional Longwood University alum, with a traumatic brain injury having previously worked in the Therapeutic Recreation field with the elderly at nursing homes in Fairfax, VA. Now as a TBI advocate, trying to help others learn more about TBIs is involved in support groups, as well as very involved in my church.
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