Isn’t this statement so completely true?

Happiness is to appreciate what you have; unhappiness is to dwell on what you don’t have.
Rabbi Shimon Ben Zoma (2nd century)

My husband always tells me that:
“it’s not about getting what you WANT, it’s about
WANTING WHAT YOU’VE GOT.”

I always try to honor that saying whenever I desire a new piece of jewelry, compare myself to others, WHATEVER.  By comparing ourselves to others, we often concentrate on what is lacking in ourselves; this results in low self-esteem.

If there is one thing that I have learned very well, it is to appreciate each and every day because this is the only chance you’ve got.  We need to all learn to appreciate what we are given, the progress that we have achieved and truly celebrate that.  Not all things last forever and once the moment has passed, it’s exactly that: it has passed.  CARPE DEIM- enjoy the day and live every moment in life to the fullest; the current moment is all we are guaranteed.  Just think: any horrible accident could occur any random time of day, totally unexpectedly that has the power to change your life forever.

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WE NEVER KNOW HOW GOOD WE’VE GOT IT, UNTIL WE DON’T GOT IT NO MORE.

(sounds like a song, doesn’t it?)

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My husband said “All the reviews of this movie made me think it would suck but it was totally awesome”.

Interview

Matt was skeptical when it came to purchasing ‘The Interview’ online, but I really wanted to see it- and see the reason for all of the commotion. He was ‘laughin’ his ass off at the movie’ and so was I.  It was truly hilarious, even though in my opinion my Chazz dog was even cuter than the dog that James Franco had in the movie.
The whole movie is based around a celebrity gossip show that James Franco hosts, a show that interviews celebrities with their fashion “oops, watch Miley Cyrus’ camel toe, or Enienem stating that he’s gay, live on air only on James Franco’s show.   Seth Rogan acts as the producer on the show Franco hosts,  Seth travels with Franco to North Korea to interview Kim Jong Un.  The interactions between the two are hilarious, yet kept me on the edge of my seat with worry the entire time. ‘Will he do this?’, or ‘what happens if James’ character does that?’ I interrupted so much that my husband had to say, ‘shh, that’s why we’re watching to find out.’  There is a lot of manipulation of different characters in this movie to elicit the desired outcomes, and the movie concludes with a positive outcome.  This review will be kept short to prevent the ins and outs of the movie from being revealed, because it is of our opinion that this movie should be seen and shown in theaters nationwide.  Mr. Obama, you were correct in being disappointed in Sony’s decision to cease from premiering this movie.  This movie is an example of freedom of speech.  The reviews of this movie state that it doesn’t “live up to all the hype,” is basically true because it is not really a controversial movie, just something that the North Koreans should laugh about, as opposed to being insulted.
I was rolling on the floor laughing about one story point, where James Franco receives a puppy as a gift from Kim Jong Un, Franco comments about “taking the dog to America, a country where they don’t eat dogs”.

My husband loves TV shows like ‘Family Guy’ and other slapstick comedies and he says this deserves a 5 out of 5 star rating.  Even I was rolling on the floor with laughter and would give the movie 4 1/2 stars out of 5, and I am not easily swayed from  my rom/com taste in movies.  The movie had not much violence or sexual content (which is good because that stuff really turns me off to a movie) and is not crude or raunchy.

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Christmas

As Proverbs 31 states in a devotional email that produces all of the blessings of the Christmas season, my personal blessings in reflection of the past days,

-family time
-fellowship
-prayers of gratitude & and thanksgiving
-devotions of love
-colored lights and gingerbread men, sugar cookies, rum balls cheesecake and coffee

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Wow- been taking some time off from posting, but its THANKFUL THURSDAY, and I must tell the thankfulness that has been in my heart this week.  After my Friday fitness class this past week, while turning on the lights to make the living room nice and cheery, the Christmas tree tipped over.  Crashing to the floor, bulbs were broken and other ornaments scattered to the floor in disarray.  The (artificial) tree was too heavy for me to pick up by myself but luckily my good friend Joanna lives a few houses away from me came to help.  We had a hard time getting the Christmas tree to  stay up because there was a piece that was misplaced during when the tree was being erected this season.  It took us an hour to put it back up and the creative thinking of my friend to make substitute spare parts.

This is what the season is all about though; it’s not about decorations, gifts or baking, it’s about good friends and people on which to rely.  I am very thankful for neighbors that are around to help you through holidawpid-20141210_230122.jpgy drama.

I’m also thankful for that holiday drama; the rushing around, holiday rush- the shopping, the baking.  Perfecting a recipe for rumballs and making a homemade icing for sugar cookies.

Getting the house prepared to host a big celebration of the family birthdays in the month of December.  Dressing for the many holiday parties, wearing cute outfits with matching cold weather accessories.  The classic Christmas songs stuck in your head while cleaning or folding laundry.  Even being appreciative of the long lines at the post office, and the nice old couple that makes conversation and holds the box closed so you can tape it shut.  I’m thankful for the ‘Christmas spirit,’ still in existence far into the 21st century, and thankful for the Most Wonderful time of the year!

 

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I am so scared of getting Alzheimer’s, or anothe form of dementia.  Possibly because I have worked in a nursing home and have seen what those diseases can do to a person, and partly because different studies, Alzheimer’s Association website, have said that I have a greater chance because of my traumatic brain injury, and the fact that I was in a coma for so long.  Being unconscious for such a long time, resulting in a severe traumatic brain injury.  As the Alzheimer’s Association states in this article.

Although, there have been articles of preventative methods, such as medical blogs like Sparkonit.com stating that greenteadrinking green tea can help.  This method has been used in centuries past, in different ancient cultures.  I read this article and try to have a cup of green tea a day.  Although not very much research has been proven to support the fact of prevention of dementia, the brain’s ability to support connectivity to increase is a known fact.  Drinking any form of green tea, be it the traditional way, or absorbing it through supplements, in soda all have been shown to be successful in increasing memory.  The University at Basel in Germany, researchers have gathered that the use of green tea has positively effected the connectivity in brain reactions between the parietal and frontal cortex synapses of the brain.

Sparkonit.com also has published an article stating about the quality of sleep and how detrimental it is to the possibility of acquiring dementia.  Sleep plays sldoga large part in controlling the rate at which the brain ages.  A non-profit website promoting the cognitive and emotional health, helpguide.org  emphasizes the importance of quality sleep as one factor of preventation and staying healthy overall.  The quality and amount of sleep that a person with a Traumatic Brain Injury is supposed to get varies from 8-10 hours.  Healthy adults require a minimum of 7 hours of sleep for optimal performance.  I am greatly in trouble for that- I would get caught up doing something until 1230, and then I would rise between 7and 730 am to take care of Chazz, my devastatingly cute dog.  Some of the times I would nap, from 9am-1130, but then I would feel lazy, so I often try not to nap for that long.

The other ways to lessen a person’s susceptibility of getting this, and just for total overall brain health, regular exercise, mental stimulation, social stimulation, a healthy diet and stress management.

I have just stopped working at a nursing home, and fear Alzheimer’s type dementia and other forms of conditions because I’ve been exposed to the later stages of dementia, and how hard it is to deal with.  Not only for the person that it is happening to, but also for the family members that are visiting and watching their loved ones deteriorate.

We all have to die; and the way of it is out of our control.  There are only preventative measures.  Mental stimulation can include reading, sudoku puzzles, even reading the newspaper or scholarly articles.  The social stimulation can be as easy as walking the dog to get out of the house, talking to some neighbors and it can also promote an increase in exercise.  Walking and playing with a dog can definitely accelerate heart rate.  Dogs are also great stress relievers, there are many therapy dogs that light up a hospital, nursing homes or other inpatient settings.   Eating a healthy diet is as easy as getting enough sleep; just a few lifestyle changes.  And getting a dog always helps.

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gratefulness

THANKFUL THURSDAYS
What brings fulfillment is gratefulness, the simple response of our heart to this life in all its fullness.
David Steindl-Rast
Gratefulness, the Heart of Prayer

I am grateful for so very much.  Grateful for my life, I thank God every day that He has allowed me to remain on this earth ever since my car accident.  At the dinner table tonight with my family on thanksgiving 2014, as I was saying the blessing, I thanked God for all those around us and for sparing my life.   God knew that there was more for me to accomplish, more and that I was capable and could accomplish.  He just had to work on me a little bit.

It didn’t take much to get through to me, only a life altering near death car accident leading to a traumatic brain injury.  I was very fortunate, very fortunate in the fact that I was I was not affected very much cognitively.  I managed to graduate high school and go on to college.  In college, I studied a passion that God lit in my heart by having me in the rehab hospital, therapeutic recreation.  I want to offer others in an inpatient, not so happy situation a chance for a little bit of joy, or at least to get their minds off of dealing with how is life currently for the residents/clients.

This thanksgiving, as all thanksgivings for the past 17 years (I woke up from my coma right before thanksgiving, where my family came to the hospital) I thank God for my life.  For giving me a wonderful loving family, especially a great husband and the cutest dog.  There is just so much to be thankful for on this day, as there is most days.  One must concentrate on all that you do have and be content, and not focusing on what you don’t.  My husband reminds me that life is not about getting what you want, but wanting what we’ve got.

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trendy fitness

Why I love cheerleading

Cheerleading gave me a purpose.  A productive purpose that produced a tangible outcome.  The outcome that makes me feel like I’m doing something worthwhile, promoting fitness, and occupying time constructively.  Thadults-exercising-stretchingat is why I love still being involved in organized programs; there is a regular event (practice) that is paid for ahead of time (incentive to attend, like work/ cheerleading practice that people feel obligated to go to, or else are letting people down, just like you feel you’re letting yourself down by not attending the physical exercise class).  Cheerleading provides accountability, in which others are dependent on your being present, coordinated exercise for a purpose (practicing to compete or for games) and is fun to have that close relationship with other girls.

I no longer attend an organized yoga class, the teacher was annoyed, which made me feel uncomfortable, and not relaxed.  The yoga class that I attended was so convenient because it is so close, I could walk to it.  I do not drive anymore, (or have not tried to get my license again) so I would have to get a ride to another facility further away.  Now, I just walk to my neighbors house twice a week, and we go to a fitness class.  I appreciate this fitness class so yoga2much because it is compliant with my beliefs, we exercise to energetic Christian music, (though that is not imperative to me in and exercise program; I just don’t appreciate the traditional Hindu practices of looking inside yourself to find your third eye, and that there is no God, just yourself- like in the yoga that is practiced in the far east) while giving me an opportunity to meet friends and clear my mind.  Don’t get me wrong, I love yoga, I just love practicing it in my living room.

Now I have a fitness program with which I can exercise on a regular schedule, volunteer work with my church that I am making a difference in the exercise-walkingcommunity around me, and I am actively crocheting.  Also I am helping coordinate the Prayer Shawl Ministry at my church and am on the college care committee.  Oh yes, and I am writing now, trying to compile the book which has been in the thought process/stage for the past 15 years.  Maybe its too late to record my experiences; I was so young, still in high school, caught up in the sport of cheerleading, talking on the phone, and chasing after boys.  Now those things mostly seem unimportant to me (mostly), I am married, and grown up, living a life on my own.  I’m not under my parents roof anymore, managing my own house (cleaning and everything BY MYSELF, and the help of the hubby), doing mature things like cooking, taking care of my doggie, making major home improvements and decorating for the Christmas season.  Small, silly things that make a person feel mature.

 I produce tangible things now, like I enjoy taking pictures, and writing down my thoughts, crocheting a scarf; I have something to show for my hard work. Even organized exercise programs produce something, a healthier body.  Exercise programs are good not only for the body, but also for the soul and mind.   I always bake something to say that I’ve accomplished this today.  Doesn’t producing something make you feel productive?

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Thankful Thursdays
This will be a weekly feature in my blog,
talking about the gratefulness for the week

Today I am very excited and thankful for friends today.  The friends that you know you can always talk to, even when you’re in a bad or blah mood becauseboppy they’ve been there too.  The friends you can SKYPE with when wearing no makeup, workout clothes and your hair in a big mess on top of your head.

I am thankful for neighbor friends, the ones that give you a ride to fitness class, and then afterwards you spend time talking with at Dunkin’ dunkin-donutsDonuts <kind of counterproductive, I know> or just go to the grocery store.  The people to pray for you, even when nothing’s really wrong, indecision is just weighing on your mind.

I am thankful for the friends that sit on the phone, talk and make you smile.  For all of the like-minded friends that you meet in support groups or Bible studies, or are just going through the same things that you are.  People that you can just enjoy a cup of coffee with, and feel totally comfortable.  Are not judging you for anything, or have any ulterior motives.

Friends to sit and reminisce in a restaurant in Arlington (you know, one of those ultra hip places) about the good ol’ days 20 years ago when you were in eighth grade.  Friends who don’t mind if you say something embarrassing to them, who just dismiss your lack of thinking as something goofy done, and don’t let it define you for the rest of your life.
[Please comment if you’ve ever had this happen, or another form of logorrhea (adj: excessive talkativeness; as defined on a Starbucks mug) and just have made complete nonsense or an oopsie! slip of the tongue.

I am thankful for friends who support you no matter what; isn’t that what friends are supposed to be anyway?  Friends that understand and are there for you no matter that they are in different stages of life or situations as you.  Friends are friends, exactly how they should be.

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Ya coming???

Ya coming???

This little doggie stands on the only safe dry spots before the water flows down the stream carrying the beautiful fall colors with it…

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…Now who bets he makes it all across to the other side??

 

 

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 The hubby with little Chazzy on a leash on the other side!

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Decisions

Which road to take? Where to go? I let my dog decide.

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